I’m meeting a friend for dinner tonight, and she suggested shrimp and salad. I really don’t like shrimp — actually, I REALLY don’t like it. In the past, I would have apologized for not liking shrimp, but I’ve learned not to. It’s important to stop apologizing for being yourself, even in small ways like food preferences. You don’t need to apologize for having boundaries, even if they seem small to others.
We all have areas in our lives where we’re learning and growing, but it’s crucial not to abandon or shame ourselves during the process. Whether it’s food preferences, saying no to invitations, or taking time to recharge, it’s okay to make those choices. These are valid decisions that honor your individuality. Recognizing your worth allows you to embrace yourself as you are, unapologetically.
It’s completely fine to dislike shrimp or any other food. You don’t need to explain or apologize for turning down an invitation. Saying no to alcohol is perfectly acceptable, too. If you need to limit time with someone who drains you, that’s okay. It’s also okay to stay home on a Friday night to recharge. No apologies needed for any of it!
It’s essential to remember that honoring your boundaries is a form of self-care. The world often pressures us to please others, but we need to make sure we are not sacrificing our well-being in the process. By staying true to our preferences and not apologizing for them, we reclaim control over our lives.
I believe in radical self-responsibility, meaning we must own our mistakes when we hurt others and be accountable for our actions. However, when it comes to apologizing for simply being yourself, that’s something to pay attention to. Next time you apologize, ask yourself: was it necessary? If not, make a conscious decision to stop apologizing for being yourself.
You don’t need to justify your preferences, your choices, or your boundaries. Simply embrace who you are and let that be enough.
